Endings hurt because attachment is a habit loop. These rituals help you switch the loop from rumination to recovery.
1) Write the unsent letter
Say everything you won’t send. End with three lessons you’re taking forward.
2) Build a memory box (and a goodbye ritual)
Collect mementos and store them away for 90 days. Light a candle, say goodbye, and close the box.
3) Rewire your routines
Replace “our spots” with new ones. Create movement (walks, gym) to metabolize stress chemicals.
4) Widen your circle
Schedule friend time and small adventures. Connection heals.
5) Future vision
Make a simple vision board. Who are you becoming now?
Scripts
- “I’m grieving because I loved. That’s a good thing about me.”
- “I can hold both: this hurts, and I’m healing.”
- “Today I’ll choose one tiny action my future self will thank me for.”